Very often, when we meet and interact with people, somewhere in our minds we rate them on a maturity level scale. This scale is of course relative. Based on where we ourselves lie on that scale. But take a minute and try to define what is maturity. And you may find it difficult to describe what maturity is. When I picked up the book Maturity The Responsibility of Being Oneself by Osho at Goa airport some days back, I was probably trying to find an answer to the same question. ‘What is maturity?’. Can you really measure it on a scale? And say one person is more mature than the other.
Maturity The Responsibility of Being Oneself by Osho
I have always found Osho’s explanations very intriguing. And like his view on every topic, he describes maturity also from an Eastern vs Western point of view. And finally comes Budhha and how he was the most mature person to have graced this planet. The book Maturity starts by explaining the difference between growing old and growing. And then moves on to how a mature person accepts everything that happens to him with equanimity. The things happening in this world do not impact a mature person at the core. As he realizes that these things are happening only at the surface and the core is incorruptible.
Book Maturity The Responsibility of Being Oneself explains the ‘Seven-year cycle’ that we all go through. I think this was my biggest takeaway from this book. Something that I had never heard/read earlier. It says every 7 years our psychology changes and so do our psychological needs. Further, the book talks about mature relationships. It says most relationships fail either because people become too dependent on each other or they remain totally independent of each other. Both these situations are not conducive to nurturing a relationship.
In the first case, you suffocate each other and in the second one, there is no need for the other person. A mature relationship is balanced by the right quantity of interdependence.
A quote that I completely endorse ‘Whenever you enjoy something, you are in tune with yourself and you are in tune with the Universe because your center is the center of all… so do only that you enjoy, otherwise stop’. Probably it’s time for me to follow this too…
Buy this book – Maturity The Responsibility of Being Oneself by Osho (Osho Insights for a New Way of Living) at Amazon India.
Read more:
- Tantra: The Supreme Understanding by Osho
- Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other by Osho
- Nirvana: The Last Nightmare: Learning to Trust in Life by Osho
- The Book of Man by Osho
I feel I have been forever such a fan of Osho’s writings.
8 years back in Pune i discovered his small Osho Times magazines, i picked them up… and ever since i have enjoyed reading his writes. He necessarily has a concept that hits hard and at the right time somehow!
Its just not easy to disagree with his writings, and that was for long difficult for me to accept…lol…
I have never read about osho.. but I think i should read one!.. and as the writing say… they seem to be pretty true about relations..
Why do you – if I may ask – listen to a bird and get swept away by explanations which may be comforting, pleasant or sensasional, or disturbing and provocative.
I have also read his writings and as this explanation says i recall one slog line that “Ati sarvatra varjyet” .We always have to balance our life in each and every dimension to make it as simple as possible.Ur blog is as good as ur this article
Hi
I came across ur Blog in search of Hugh Prather ( Notes to Myself ) Its a bible to me .
Osho again , big fan of his for the independence he wants to instill in you
But on Relationship Khalil Gibran in Prophet is a masterpiece
Here it goes I hope u find this interesting
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow
geminijesus,
I could not have agreed more with you on Khalil Gibran. And this piece is one of my favourites by him.
-Anu
Anuradha, thank you for creating this blog it gives me the real eyes I need to see my country better.